Hi Vivienne, 

I'm sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis and the frustrating situation you find yourself in as a result.

Have you been able to sit down with him and tell him how you feel, explaining how much stress and worry his actions are causing by not allowing you to be involved? Hopefully this will make him aware of the negative impact it is having and let you in more.

I know a few members have been in similar situations to yourself and I'm sure some of them will post soon to share their advice and experiences with you. Do also have a look around and join in on previous discussions that are similar to yours as our members are very supportive and will do all that they can to help. To do this just use the 'search forum' option above.

I hope your husband opens up to you more soon Vivienne so you can face this diagnosis together.

Kind Regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator