This is very pain full stitaution...ur love once is about going to...i m also bearing this...every time my eyes is full of tears....

Hi, I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time. Just be there for dad and any family. Tell him you love him (out loud or in your head). Whatever happens (and you must think positively) your dad will be out of pain. It's hard because you feel helpless but at the same time there is a need inside you that wants to fix things. Just know that you can't fix things but you can be there. I just recently lost my mum and I know how you're feeling. I pray there is a better outcome for your dad. Sending hugs. Xxx

Hello Umw81

I'm very sorry to hear the sad and difficult time you and your family are having. We lost my Dad in 2012 (prostate/bladder cancer) and I'm on here today for the first time with concerns about my wife. I have no words other than the concerned and caring thoughts and best wishes of a stranger. Whatever happens, you will get through it. Inside you, there is the strength to get through this but don't do it alone. I don't know what more to say right now. Take care.

Thank you for your lovely message. My dad pulled through septic shock. He had a long time readjusting to life after coma. His cancer is now terminal and is aggressive. He is still in hospital and probably will not return home. It could be days or weeks and I have done everything I can to be there for him. I have no regrets. I think about the future and how on earth am I ever going to get through this. I guess it's the circle of life but it doesn't make things easier. 

Hi! I'm so sorry to hear you're dad's going through this and you have to experience everything that's going on, it's a truly awful situation to go through. After watching my dad go through terminal cancer I can only offer things which I regret I didn't do. If you have any CDs of his which he loved listening to take them in so he can hear them, tell him you love him a million times a day and ask him what he needs! Let him know that you're there (which I'm sure you already do) and if he has any favourite foods or likes homemade desserts take them as a treat. 

I know this won't help the situation for you, but it could make all the difference for him! I'm so sorry I can't be of much help but I wish you all the best and you are all very much in my thoughts. Let me know how you get on xxxxx 

Unfortunately my dad passed on June 24th. I got a call to come back to Dublin at 9 am and managed to see dad before he slipped into a coma. He knew I was there and was very peaceful and comfortable. It took 4 days for him to pass and we played all his CDs while he was in a coma. I do believe he heard everything while he was asleep.  I have been ok since the passing and went back to work the following week.  I miss him terribly but I know all too much the pain and suffering was too much for him.  I find looking at old photos the best therapy. Thank you for your kind message and support xx

Hi Umw81,

On behalf of the Cancer Chat team, I wanted to offer you our deepest condolences on the loss of your dad. It's lovely to hear that looking at old photos of him is of some comfort to you in this difficult time. 

Take care, we are thinking of you,

Helen

Cancer Chat moderator

God bless you. It truly is the most awful thing to go through. I lost my dad on 27th June and am struggling every day to get through it. I just want him back. Seeing my dad battlling this awful cancer was absolutely heartbreaking. Everyone says it gets easier which I prey to god it does 

mary x

My condolences Mary. There are no words of comfort at the moment. As the weeks go by it seems that the grief gets stronger. All I can say is be kind to yourself it's the best advice I've been given and now that our dads journeys have finished we need to take care of ourselves for a little while now! 

You look after yourself x