Mam is in so much pain

Hi, new to the forum but not coping too well at the moment. I just don't understand. Mam was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer extensive stage spread to liver and bones last September. She completed chemotherapy Dec 7th and was told the cancer was barely detectable on the scans in January. Since chemo finished she has just gone downhill. Firstly she had extensive blood clots in both lungs and has been on permanent oxygen and then had sepsis and then a fracture in her back. She has been in and out of hospital 4 times, a couple of weeks each time, since January. She is currently in hospital since Mon 3rd April as her pain was so bad. A Ct scan has shown the cancer is back aggressive and through her liver and other places. They have tried to get on top of her pain but she can't move or stand or anything as the pain is excruciating. Trying to get onto a commode by her bed is almost impossible and shes not able to even wipe herself. They have a driver for the pain at the moment but nothing seems to touch the pain. It's just so awful seeing her like she is. She's been through so much this last few months and never had any benefit from the chemo, I don't know how much more she can take. 

  • Hi Angela, 

     

    I am so sorry to hear about you and your mother's suffering. You are a very good daughter to her and even in all that pain she is in, it must feel good to have you near her. Hope you both find peace soon. 

     

    Stay strong for her, 

    xx

  • I am so sorry to hear that your dear Mam is in so much pain - it is so hard to watch a loved one suffer.  I also have so much sympathy for your Mam - it sounds so hard to bear and is very distressing.  I think it is hard to control pain in the liver as it is an organ that acts to detoxify the body - I may be wrong but I suspect this may be the issue.  I do hope all the medics will find something to ease her distress and yours.  There are so many people on this site that will offer you comfort if possible.

    It will be such a comfort to her to have you near - take care x