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Hi all.

Just last week i found out that my Dad has stage 2 skin cancer. There is signs of it in his lung, stomach and bowel. I am in total shock. I havent cried yet today but it is constantly on my mind. I feel sick to my stomach and ill be honest i dont want to be here, even though i have a husband and three children to look after.

My Dad hasnt had his biopsy results back yet so he doesnt know what course of treatment will be ( if any). Everyone is a matter of fact about it all but i am beside myself.

I want to wake up tomorrow and for all this to be a dream. 

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    HI.. I know your pain, we have just found out that my dad has lung and pancreatic cancer, he is going for his biopsy today.. i am at a total loss what to do with myself, i feel so angry and annoyed at how this can happen to my daddy... i am a huge daddys girl and i cant bear the thought of my big strong dad being so frail and ill.. he is trying to be strong for me and my stepmum and i want to be strong for him.. like you i wish i could turn back the clock esp to christmas when we were all so happy...  My husband and two girls have been immense these past couple of weeks and i feel so guilty being in such a bad mood.. Glad i found this place and we can help each other get through the next few weeks xx

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    Hi,

    i am so sorry to hear the news about your Dad.

    My thoughts are with you at this uncertain time.

    I was unsure about looking at or posting anything on here as it makes it real (if you lnow what i mean)

    But i hope writing it down will be a comfort.

    Take care of yourself

    xx

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    Hi there,

    So very sorry to read about your Dad. It is a horrible shock. I came on here after my Mum was diagnosed with brain cancer. 

    Waiting for results is really hard. When they do come, they will offer information which might offer some support i.e. at least you will know something. People handle things in different ways don't they, so maybe it is going on inside the other people around you and you all don't want to say so? Are you maybe worried you will upset each other? 

    I really feel for you. Take care xx

     

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