I was very unexpectedly diagnosed with adverse Stage3 colon cancer last August. Underwent a right hand helicolectomy a week later and now under intensive course of chemo at session no 9, aiming to do 12 sessions. The fortnightly regime is a bit of a killer and really leaves very few days to ever come back to normal although I still mange to do a lot for myself and things around the house as and when I can. I keep being told by nursing staff that I am doing really well although it often doesn;t feel that way.

My husband was diagnosed a week before me with prostate cancer but has undergone successful radiotheraapy treatment with a prognosis of a 90% cure. So I appreciate we both have different and difficult journeys but he will not give me any emotional or moral support. He will turn his hand to household chores but if I try to talk about my feelings he shuts the conversation down at the first opportunity.

Things came to a head at the weekend and twice he aggressively told me that he had other things to think about but "he had to look after me". Those words keep echoing in my head and feel they are so hurtful. Obviously not in a position at the moment to consider leaving but finding situation pretty intolerable and certainly not a postiive place to be in when I am trying so hard to get better.

Any insight or suggestions please? Kathy aged 58