Hi! 

Thank you for your reply. I wasn't sure what to write, it's a bit daunting. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It's so cruel. I'm glad he's not in pain & although confused at least he's comfortable physically & mentally.  It's hard watching them deteriorating so fast. My heart goes out to you & your family.

I have an 8 month old baby & we got the news it had spread when she was born. He's sad that she won't remember him but I try & reassure him that he will never be forgotten. We take lots of photos but in my heart they're all tinged with sadness. 

Thank you once again for your reply. It does help to know there are other people who understand. I hope you're as OK as you can be. 

Hi Jol 

How is your dad doing at the moment?  It's nice if you have lots of photos of him with your daughter.  She will see his love of her when she looks at the photos when she's older.

I have an 18 month old too, she won't remember her grandad either. I haven't taken any photos for a couple of weeks as now he looks poorly in the hospice and I don't really want to remember him like that, if that makes sense?  I've got lots of photos from when he was healthier though, even a few weeks ago when he was happy and walking around in his garden.

It sounds like your dad may be getting on better than mine, fingers crossed it continues for as long as possible.  If he starts feeling pain then there's lots of good pain relief available and my dad carried on his normal home life for a long time, it was only last week that he deteriorated and no further cancer treatment was available to him and he became too much for my mum to care for (he needs a lot of pain relief and help with personal needs now, the hospice is lovely).

Hope you're OK xx