Hello MagsG I am the mother of 35 years old son who had terminal cancer, it is a journey into unchartered waters. There is no handbook to guide you through this perilous journey. Lots of lovely people on this site and the MacMillan site to share their stories, to help you through the dark times, to share your joy in the good times. There are no right or wrong things, every person suffering cancer is an individual as you are , you have to accept that your way of life has changed for the time being and each day is a time to enjoy, a time to make memories to the best that you can. My son got married 10 days after his bowel tumour was removed. My husband, myself, his wife and two sisters set about making each day count, obviously some days and weeks were not good but others were. When he was in hospital every fortnight for 3 days having chemo, one of my daughters would visit in the evening and they would have pizza sent in, play board games etc. Obviously every family has a different make up. Rambling on now. I hope that you have friends and family to help you both through this time. Sending you hugs through internet air waves. lesliexxx