Hi Teresa,

I am so sorry to read about your dad. When we lose someone we love we suffer from all sorts of emotions; anger, guilt, regret, sadness being just a few of them. This is quite common to feel this way and as you say is all part of the grieving process. I hope you dont take this the wrong way but as it was so quick, at least your father didnt suffer for long. Several in my family suffered for monthhs, getting weaker all the time and I have never felt so helpless as a result. . 

I have some words for you. When you are feeling low, try to remember some of the good times youve had with your dad. This always helps me when I feel low about losing my mother ten years ago.

We never really do get over losing our loved ones but given time we do adjust to a new way of life that will never be quite the same for there is someone missing in our lives.It takes as much time as it takes so be gentle onyourself.

Sending kind thoughts your way, Brian.

Hi Teresa,

I'm so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away and wanted to offer my condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. I'm glad to see that Brian has responded with some wise words, and wanted to echo his sentiment that it takes as much time as it takes. We're here to support you if you need us.

Take care and best wishes,

Helen

Cancer Chat Moderator 

Hi, I am so sorry about your dad. I have similar feelings. My beautiful sister passed away in December, it was 5 weeks from diagnosis. I too have been feeling a lot of anger [although this is getting better]. I was with her when she passed, which was so important but felt so helpless in all ways.

I know it's an old cliche but you do need to take it a day at a time and give yourself time. I don't think I will every truly come to terms with it but take comfort in the fact she knew how deeply she was loved and we know how much she loved us xx

Hi Teresa, I am sadly going through the grieving process as well.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I think that we all have ups and downs in the way we cope with this. I too am struggling some days to return to 'normal' life.

What I hold on to dearest is my treasured andbest memories. Sometimes the bad memories creep in, but I am slowly coming to peace and accepting that it was time for them to move on and not be in any more pain.

I hope and I'm sure it will get better with time, talking about this is the first step in dealing with any loss. My thoughts are with you and just realise that we are also lucky to have had them in our lives no matter how long or short it was.

x