I hate being on this forum, but I ran across it when I Googled "brother dying from cancer" and I thought I would check it out...many of these post are exactly what I am going through. My first dealing with cancer was my father, he developed colon cancer, beat it, lived a relativley happy life, and died at 89...but not from cancer. My older brother developed bladder cancer, was doing everything right, got a clean bill of health from the bladder cancer, but the Drs were not checking if it had spread...and it had. He died in July of 2014, at 60. In February of 2016 I had a neice in her early 50s that died from cervical cancer. Then the bombshell hit! My closest brother...2 years older than me...started feeling very weak when he got home from work...just thought it was the heat and the fact that he is 59...kept feeling worse so finally went in to the Dr on Oct 13...tumor on his bile duct...we hope he makes it to his daughters wedding at the end of February. I thought that I was a strong person until this. seeing him slowly go down hill is horrble. when we were kids we had some of the best fights...but he was still the one I always went to when I needed some help with a project, and now he's gonna be gone. I guess I just needed to vent this to somebody...Im glad this forum is here.