I was genetested 10 years ago and was tested positive for the BRCA 1 gene. I've never worried much about it, and the doctors informed me that I shouldn't have to worry for at least another 6 years (family history says higher risk at that age). However, now my partner and I are discussing having children. I never thought about passing on the gene too much - mostly because I haven't been bothered about it, but my partner doesn't want to put children into the world who have a 50/50 risk of having a 'faulty' gene. He wants us to go through a process where the doctor will take out the embryo and check to see if it has the gene mutation, and if it does then have the pregnancy terminated. 

For me, there's so many issues with this. First of all, I just want to have children the normal way. The excitement about maybe or maybe not be pregnant and do it the more 'natural' way. Also, I have an issue with the aspect of having test tube children. I just want to have children and not worry about whether or not I have passed them a 'faulty gene'. 

Obviously, we are completely stuck in this argument and I don't think we will be able to reach a conclusion on our own. Maybe I am very much in the wrong or maybe he is. I just don't want any of us developing a grudge against each other in the future, because we didn't have it our way - or even worse, if one of our children will end up with cancer. 

Anyway. I don't know who to talk to, as it is so sensitive a topic so I figured I could leave it here to see if anyone has an opinion.