Diagnosed 4 weeks ago

Hi , am 49yr old , single lady, and was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer , on 3rd October . Had sentenal node op yesterday , will be going in for single mastectomy and reconstruction at same time on 9th November. Started hormone tablets 5 days ago and really feel they affecting , my mood and concentration , feeling nauseous and tired ? Nurse says that it's not possible to be the tablets as they not really in my system yet ? Feeling scared , guilty for putting this on my friends , especially my true friend who has come with me to every appointment , and really wish I had a partner who could put his arms around me in the middle of the night when I'm really scared and just hold me. Have lived alone since I was 23, have always suffered with loneliness and wanted to meet somebody to love, loneliness worse now coping with fear of the physical changes coming . Know it's very important to keep positive mental attitude and confidence , but not sure how am going to do it . Not sure what treatment will be needed and not sure I can cope with more bad news as want to be able to deal with losing my breast first. 

  • hi mariac...the most supportive and powerfull thing i can say to you, is   you are not alone..so many people on here im sure will conect with you, have a good look on all the headings on the left, and clicking on peoples picture boxes, and reading there about me sections, im sure you will find lots of people going through the same thing, also scared, that can help. and the ask the nurse section over to the left of screen very helpfull, i wish you strength to succeed....x

  • Hi  . Yes it is a scary time ahead I too am alone living with cancer . Slightly different circumstances to yours as I am widowed(although have 2grown up sons 2grandchildren) but understand where your coming from 're having a cuddle and someone hold you and say it's going to be ok. I had a hysterectomy 3yrs ago due to having endometrial cancer but it spread  to the peritoneal area which is a rare form of cancer,aggressive  and untreatable.  I had chemo last year to shrink it and now hold my breath every day hoping it's not growing too fast as there is no guarantee chemo will work again .i hold down a full time job which is very tiring but on the bright side....there's always someone else worse off. . But loneliness in the evening's and during the night when sleep doesn't happen is something no one can help us with. My sister helped me through my darkest days same as your friend has with you and will continue to do no doubt but please think positive.never know what or who's round the corner do we. I would love to meet a partner for friendship and outings so maybe in the near future ....for us both x stay strong