Thank you so much for your reply.  We went to the hospital this morning to speak with my dad's doctor.  He spoke at length to my dad today - he now understands that they are not going to remove the rectal tumour.  He is devastated.  Being in hospital is making him depressed, but he is on warfarin and his blood levels are fluctuating,  so he can't  come home until they are stable.  They are discussing him in the multidisciplinary  meeting on Tuesday,  hopefully if his blood is OK, he can come home and have an outpatient appointment  in our local cancer specialist centre.  I am hoping they will offer him chemo. 

I feel numb, we can't visit him at the moment - his ward has been closed due to covid infection (thankfully, my dad's bay is unaffected).  He's been on the phone to me this morning, he became upset again.  I feel useless.  This disease is so cruel. 

Thank you again for your kind words, hope your dad is keeping well - tell him to keep fighting, I truly believe that positive thinking helps so much.  My best wishes to you all. Xxx

Just a short update.  My dad deteriorated quite quickly.  He did not want to go back into hospital, and as I am a nurse, I have looked after him at home with input from the district nursing team.  It has not been easy.  He became very confused, then went downhill rapidly.  At the moment I am writing this sat next to his bed.  He is at the end of his life, which will probably happen imminently.   He has fought for the past 3 days, but his battle with this truly devastating disease is useless.  We are  keeeping him as comfortable as possible.  My heart is breaking for this truly selfless man, who dotes on both myself and my two boys.  My mum is trying to be strong, but is now fearful of her new life alone.  Please, please, please - anyone who has any of the symptoms  of cancer, act quickly - if its caught in time your outcome may be much better than my dad's.   We now face life without this wonderful human being, who has shown us so much love our whole lives.  My heart is breaking.

Really sorry to her this. My husband has lymphoma no treatment yet waiting for pet scan. It's stage 4 they say they can sort it but I can't help worrying