Welcome to the forum Maria though sorry to hear why you have joined. There are many here who will have some understanding of how you are feeling just now.  It must be very hard having such a short time to take in the diagnosis before you lost your husband.  My hubby died  nearly 19 months ago from cancer of the lung linings (Mesothelioma) though he struggled through nearly three years after diagnosis.  Nothing can really prepare you for such a loss but I hope, like me, you can find some support here.  Some of us certainly find it helpful to talk things through with others who have faced similar journies.  Jules54

Woke up this morning really struggling just want to get through the day I miss him so much how do you cope. I've got a good family children and grandchildren but I feel so alone thank you for replying it helps to put into words how I feel as I can't put this on my children x

Hi Maria

Sorry for the late reply but have just returned from holiday with the children and grandchildren. I well remember how my early days/weeks and yes even months were sometimes a real struggle and I wondered  how life as a widow could possibly move forward.  I was fortunate to have found this forum during my hubby's illness and the support I received from then on and to this day some 19 months post loss made a huge difference to me.

Everyone appears to manage, cope, grieve differenty but from my own personal journey I did find talking to others here a help.  I was open and frank about  my feelings with my friends and family and mutual support between me and our adult children was, I think, a key factor too.  In time (different for everyone) I found acceptance was a major part of my healing process and know in my heart that hubby would have wished for me to enjoy the precious life I still have.  I miss him in my life enormously and no doubt always will but I began my journey with grief by setting myself tiny goals (loads of firsts to get through!) and trying to achieve them.

I hope you feel able to share your thoughts here and gain a little strength by knowing that others do and will try and understand and support you if you wish. Sending a virtual hug. Jules x

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hi jule how do you cope x

Hi Jane

In the early days of my loss I found talking about how I felt and not bottling up my feelings helped a little.  For me personally  I had spent nearly three years watching my hubby's decline which in itself had not been easy. I had the benefit of mutual support from our two adult children and also grandchildren.  I still work part time and the GP kept an eye on me generally and allowed me to be open and frank about my feelings which at times were all over the place. 

The grieving process is so different for everyone and most will say that time heals. It is now over 19months since I became a widow so have dealt with most of the 'firsts' and am now trying to set small goals to keep me focussed on my own life which I consider to be very precious.

I have been part of this forum for several years now and my buddies played a very big part in getting me through the dark days.

Hope you can find some support on the forum as at times it can feel a pretty lonely road and there are many here with great understanding.  Jules