Hi . I AM IN REMISSION FROM renal call cancer and had akidney removed last year. From  a partner what I want from my wife and kids is to be treated normally. If for instance I've had a bad daya and am low it might just be that I am low and have had a bad day not because of the cancer. Being normal is what most people want not sympathy. This is what I think anyway. Hope it helps and nice to know your wife has someone who takes time to go I  this forum.John