New here, from the United States.

Hello everyone;)

My name is Kimberly. I'm a 51 year old stay at home mom married 21 years with one child and one Morkie poo. I live in a southern suburb of Pittsburgh, Pa. I have been an survivor of tongue and neck cancer stage 4a since my diagnosis on April 3, 2014.

i Had an 11 hour surgery on 4/25 that found a tumor had spread to 3 lymph nodes. I had 7 chemo and 33 rads. I had two feeding tubes, lost 80 pounds, had issues not able to keep food down, was in and out of the hospital for about 6 months.

i been in very good health since then.  I don't feel I'm going to die soon or have an relapse. In fact I feel confident I'll die to be old. I try to eat as healthy as I can and I walk my dog every day. I try not to let my experience put my down or the statics saying I'll prolly be dead in a few more years.

it just feels like negative energy to worry. I rather live life and enjoy it. I been thinking about how positive energy has the same effect as negative. I believe you draw to you sometimes what your feeling. Studies do show that prayer, Postive thinking have very strong favorable outcomes.

i was very sad, in a negative state when my cancer was found. Horrible things were happening to me, I mean just terrible then 6 months later I get this?

i wasn't a smoker and I rarely drank. I was maybe a little overweight but I do believe something was attached to me.

i came here because I am hoping you guys may be able to relate?

  • Hi Kimberley,

    I can definitely relate to many of your feelings. Life is unfair and bad things often happen to good people.

    I don't believe in Karma, just in the random nature of the Universe as an explanation for this.

    Positive thoughts may or may not help, but negative ones make life seem so tedious and stressful. As do negative people.  Like you, I'm concentrating on enjoying life, staying healthy and walking my dog. I'm not a cancer survivor but I am living with the knowledge that I have an incurable stage 4 cancer and enjoying life with my family while I can.

    Best wishes

    Dave