My dad was just diagnosed last Friday with bowel/stomach cancer. They say it is terminal/incurable and that they won't opertae but can do chemo. They still need to give us more results on Friday this week, asbestos may also play a role. He has lost a lot of weight and his teeth look huge, he is a very proud man and he is in denial and is trying to find ways to get a 2nd opinion. He is Turkish and he wants to fly there and pay for treatment. If they say it is incurable is it really? How long is the chemo? What are we supposed to do in the meantime? Im so shocked and confused, we have a big close family which is amazing but also hard because there are so many emotions to deal with. Im trying to be the strong one and not cry in front of the others and definitely not around him, weve made a strict rule of no morbid crying. Its hard though. I don't understand how it seemingly comes from nowhere and then it's this bad. If they are saying they can't cure it and so won't take his stomach/bowel out whats the most he could live for? I have so many questions I dont know where to stop and start.
