Hi  - my mum has been diagnosed with secondary melanoma afer 10 years from a melanoma on her arm. It has spread to her breast but this is being treated with tablets as only low grade.  She found a lump under her arm which was 8cm in February and had this removed in April along with all the nymph nodes. Out of the eighteen removed only one had cancer cells. She is now due for radiotherapy in the next two weeks.. A course of 20 treatments. We are a close family and she does talk about her illness but I feel I dont know enough as don't want to bombard her with questions. I am also away on holiday for three weeks of her treatment and feel so guilty not there for her even though my sister will be here and other members of the family. My mum is very independent and very positive but as my dad says she hides it well. Sometimes I do feel she is not telling us all the facts and protecting us.