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life can be cruel

nicky.k.
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Didn't think I would ever be joining a forum like this, I guess sharing our stories will help so here goes...

Cancer doesn't run in our family so when last August we got told Dads acid reflux was cancer we were all shocked and upset and then only 10 weeks later we were told there was pretty much nothing they do could for him, needless to say it was the worst christmas I have ever had. He is sort of doing ok but also getting worse as time goes on, he is only 64 and I have only ever seen him cry once which was because of the horrible c word. I'm totally devastated by it all but trying to hold it together for now xx

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    Hi

    Welcome to the forum though of course sad to read the reason behind your joining us.  I joined shortly after my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer (aged 60) and devastated just sums up how we all felt. We  were lucky that palliative care gave him nearly three more years with us but it was such a difficult journey for him.  Our children/grandchildren lived close by and we coped by supporting each other and him in the best way we could.

    I hope you find sharing your thoughts here helps a little (I made some wonderful virtual friends who I still chat with) and I am sure others will be along in support soon.  Take care and I know you will make the most of the precious time you now have with your Dad.   Jules54

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    Hi, 

    I've just posted for the first time myself, I'm in a similar position to you but it's my mum who has cancer in our family. The diagnosis is still raw as we only found out a week ago, the hardest part I've felt is just being so helpless and seeing them in pain but not being able to do anything?! And the fact the the doctors haven't given us any hope. Despite this though we are trying to stay positive and looking for alternative therapies and ways in which we can help her body fight it as much as it can but I agree with the title of your post, life can definitely be so cruel! X

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    Hi

    I'm sorry to hear about you Dad. I'm also new here. You're right, it is cruel. Cancer is a cruel disease.

    We also found out around christmas time that my Dad had lymphoma. Its been a rough six months, and then we just found out last week that the course of chemo has done nothing to help. He's been so ill with the chemo and then it hasn't worked and now onto another treatment. It doesn't seem fair. I feel like I'm constantly terrified of what's going to happen next. We've had infections, a pulmonary embolism. When is it going to stop? I'm trying to be hopeful but it's not looking good. I'm in the middle of exams at the moment and its all just getting on top of me now. I joined to find some people to talk to who understand what its like.

    I hope your Dad can be comfortable. You are very brave, enjoy the time you have left with your him and take care x

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    Hi Nicky,

    Welcome to the forum, I hope you receive the advice and support you need.

    Like your Dad, I have Oesophageal Cancer, also detected at a late stage. I hope his team can make him as comfortable as possible. Excuse me asking, but has palliative chemo been completely ruled out? 

    Best wishes

    Dave

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