Hi Helen, I'm really sorry to see your husband has lung cancer. I think when it's a man with cancer they deal with it differently to how females might.  I lost my dad late October last year from stage 4 lung cancer and he  never told us that he was unwell. Me and my mum didn't know anything was wrong but noticed he'd lost weight. My mum struggles to understand why my dad didn't share his feelings. I guess what im Trying to say is that men still try and remain strong and not worry their partners and deal with it all themselves. I think all you can do is be there for him to support him and listen if he needs you to. Maybe a man will be along to give their perspective shortly. Take care x

Hi Michelle, I guess I am like your mum. I do struggle to understand.  Thankyou for your reply, when you must still be feeling the loss of your father so much. My best wishes to you and your mum. xx 

Sometimes it's a little of that ' stiff upper lip' and also some denial in my dads case. It's a very tough journey at all stages, my dad passed away 3 days after diagnosis. We can only fill in the gaps as my dad never shared what was going on. I suppose we have to respect others decisions. I hate to think of the heartache my dad must of felt on his own solo cancer journey. Men are strange creatures at times. My dads brother has what he thinks is skin cancer on his face, yet will he go to the doctors? No! Now you'd think a man that is very cut up after loosing his brother would seek help and try and nip things in the bud. You can't make people do anything in this life. All aside I think a cuddle and holding hands speaks a thousand words and is comforting to each other. What type of cancer does your husband have?  I hope the chemo works well for him. x