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Suzanne1964
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I last had breast cancer 2007 where I had a lumpectomy followed with chemo and radio therapy. I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer in my other breast. I am due to have my breast removed and reconstructed 31st March. To top things off my Mum suddenly passed away this week. I don't feel I can talk to my family regarding my diognosis and feel very lonely at the moment. I am the organiser within our family unit and have found myself writing my mums ulogy wondering what life is all about and feeling very negative about what lies ahead.  I know I need to focus on myself but my mission is to arrange my Mums funeral and make sure all runs smoothly. I have my pre-op the day before the funeral and I think my family think that I am super human and will take in in my stride as usual, inside I just want to scream. Anyone in a simular situation out there .      I could do with someone to listen to me moan. 

 

 

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    It is OK to ask for help. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum. With the exception of a child your mother must be the hardest to lose. I wish you well for the funeral & your op. X

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    Hello Suzanne1964,

    I am so sorry to hear your mum passed away last week and that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer on your other breast.

    Wishing you the best of luck with arranging your mum's funeral and with your pre-op. Do come back to our forum anytime you feel a bit down or want to talk to someone who can really understand how you feel.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer  Chat Moderator

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    Hi Suzanne

    I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer and also the organiser in the family. I'm sorry to hear of your moms passing. I'm sure your family see you as a strong character and that's what you show them but if your like me I do the same but am crumbling inside but daren't show it.

    The ulogy and organisation will keep your mind occupied but you do need to think about yourself and ensure you kick this cancer in the butt for a second time which I'm sure you will. Happy to hear your moans, we have to stick and keep positive together

    Regards Cal

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    i am amazed at how strong we can be when we need to be i will be thinking of you and am sorry for all you are having to cope with

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