Hi

My Mum was diagnosed with secondery Liver cancer last month and they have told us there is nothing they can do for her and that any treatment would make her feel worse and have no effect and that she only had months.

My children are very close to my mum and we visit her every week without fail so when she went into hospital they were really upset that they could not see her as much as they are used to, so i tried to take them as much as possible but it was a bit awkward because my children are 8,7,2 and 1 years old and they can get noisy.

Now she is at home I myself go everynight but I dont take the kids with me every night as she gets tired very quickly, but they are noticing a big change in her everytime they see her and are getting more worried about her and asking more questions which I am trying to answer as well as I possibly can without teling them she is going to die, but I know time is running out and she is going to get worse and although I want them to see there Grandma as much as possible when I was young I also went through the same thing, I was a little older but I lost my grandad to lung cancer and he died quite quickly after he was told but I remember seeing him when he was dying and sometimes thats all I can remember of him and I dont want the same thing for my children, I know my children will take it very hard to them she is their world but I dont want to rob them of being able to see her for as long as possible but i also dont want them to have the lasting memory of Grandma dying.

Any advise Please ?

xxx