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My daughter got married April 2015 then in june she told me she had cancer shes had 2 operations now can't do any more for her she lost her hair which broke my heart she won't go to cemo every week as its not doing any good theres more pain than ever also shes always ill. I love her to bits but can't come to terms with it 2x tumours in spine 1x in stomach noe her liver her eyes are yellow and so is her skinshes moved back home to die what can I do how do I except im losing my best friend all I do thses days is cry

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    Bronwen that is terrible and I feel for you. Try to support your daughter even if your heart is breaking. Don't leave it too late as people can deteriorate quickly and leave little time for all the things we want to say. Tell her you love her how much she means to you.  I hope and pray that things are not as bad as you think. Take care and look after yourself. 

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    Actually it is your daughter who now is going through trauma.  Can you put your trauma aside and be there as her rock - regardless of your instability?  Come on - at times we all have to either individually face up to our own challenges or our ability to deal with the unbearable challenges that others face.  Your daughter sounds as if she needs a Mum who is strong and loving and caring and sharing and there for here - you can say that you are scared - but there for her.  This is time to focus on your daughter?  Come on - Bronwen, just focus on your daughter in terms of how much love and suppoert and happiness you can give?  Does that sound OK?  Sian

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    Bronwen, what you are feeling is perfectly natural, although a very sad situation.  The fact she has come home to you means that she needs to be with you, her mum, and I am sure you are giving her all the support, love and care that she needs.  As a mother, the thought of anything happening to your child, however old, is unbelievably heartbraking.  Just take each day as it comes, get all the help you can for both of you, enjoy the good moments and support her in the bad. Please come and talk to us anytime, sometimes off-loading worries onto others is what we need.  Let us know how your daughter is, Bronwen.  x

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