Hello and welcome, I thought I'd say hi as you hadn't received a reply as yet. I'm sure somebody will be along who can offer more help and support. I'm not sure where you find your strength from, it's really tough. Try and remain hopeful, once you know more and the treatment plan ahead you can focus on a positive outcome. Support each other and talk about things. Take care 

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You are in a horrible place and not one person can make it better - unfortunately.  When I was diagnosed - my husband and I went into denial until we sat in front of the Consultant and were informed in straight terms.  I suspect a lot people do this.  In my period of denial I did not want to discuss or share my fears and thoughts - I wanted to block. block, block.  But that was my coping strategy - how do you think your husband wants to cope with the time between now and the results?  Do you know or might you need to just gently open up the conversation?  How do you want to deal with it?  Do you need/want to talk about possible outcomes or build that brick wall against best/worst case scenarios until you know what you need to deal with?  Lots of people want to be fore armed and prepared - others like me want to block until knowing what the issue to be dealt with is.  Are you and husband able to talk together about what each of you needs and identify how to meet each of your needs - even if they be totally opposite?  It is the scariest time and lonliest time and I send you all my thoughts and wish you both every strength and hope for an outcome which is not as frightening as you feel it is now.  Sian

Hello there.  You know we all react differently to this kind of news but the fact your husband is refusing to let it get him down is a good thing.  He is quite right - don't be depressed until you have a positive.  Wait for the treatment plan, cancer is an awful word, but that's all it is.  Things have moved on and they can do amazing things these days.  I am sure your husband would rather you took your lead ftom him otherwise you may make him start to be negative too.

Nobody ever said life was going to be easy, but show your husband you believe he can do this, be positive and fight together.  It will make all the difference.

Best wishes to you both.  Please come back and let us know how your husband gets on.