Hi Eileen, welcome to the forum, but sorry for all you're going through right now. Your post struck a chord with me because I'm living with some tragic circumstances in my family right now that have fragmented my family has well. I won't go into details about all of that, but I just want you to know that unfortunately, this kind of thing sometimes happens in families and we are helpless to fix it. Like you, the emotional fallout from this kind of stress can seem unbearable at times for me, but if I've learned one hard lesson in all of this, is that I cannot control or change the behaviour of other adults in my family, including my adult children. The impact from all of this has greatly affected my life. Of course, when something like a cancer diagnosis comes along to add more stress, we wonder how we get through it.

In my case, I'm the one with cancer that I have been dealing with for 6 years now. I can honestly say that I do have some idea for what you are going through, although in your case, it is your husband with the cancer. I really feel bad for you. At a time when families should pull together to support each other through a really hard time, we're left with not only the stress of dealing with cancer, but also the stress and heartbreak of having lost these family supports. This forum has been a God-send for me as I've said so many times. People on here are so caring and supportive that it certainly helps to have a place to go to communicate our concerns about cancer, whether our own, or a loved one with it.

Keep coming on to the forum and writing down your fears and concerns and accept the support you will receive from the good people on here. Believe me it will help.

I wish you peace in getting through this. Sending a hug your way.

Lorraine