Hi sorry to hear about your illness hope you have a positive recovery.  I lost my wife a couple of month ago to a brain tumour. She lived a year with it. During that time I was a mess mentally. Always questioning myself and my caring capabilities etc. After she passed I started coming on this site and have found this has helped me massively. People on here know what each other are going through and it helps to communicate with them. Maybe if you suggest he joins the forums I'm sure he will get some good advice from people who are going through the same emotional journey as himself. I wish I had gone on here months ago. Hope everything works out for you both take care 

Hello

i am so sorry to hear about your wife and very grateful you took the time to reply.

your words have helped and provided a springboard for a positive conversation between my husband and I.

i now feel less isolated and more hopeful. Finding this forum has been wonderful.

thank you.

Hello there.

I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer on Friday. It's been one hell of a weekend!My husband has also taken the news badly and has been at times inconsolable.I have had to hold him whilst he wailed and cried out that he couldn't loose me.I have to agree it's strange when your the one with the cancer.But looking at it another way I'm sure if it was me I would react in the same way.We have a good marriage he is the absolute love of my life and is such an amazing man.

It's still early days for me and I don't really know much more about my prognosis until Thursday  when I have another meeting with my team to discuss all of my results and agree my treatment plan.

This bit seems harder than the diagnosis itself.Waiting to see if my grading has changed,if the second lump is cancer too and if I can keep my breast of not.I know it's hard on all of the ones I love and that they must be suffering too.We've been talking alot about everything that could happen and also with other family members and with my beautiful children of course.Who are still so young but so brave.

Always around for a chat if you need to vent

Hope your feeling well

Take care

Vanessa  

Thanks for responding and really sorry to hear your diagnosis. What a miserable Christmas gift!

you sound as if you and your are shocked but communicating well. Talking about cancer and the possible outcomes. Unfortunately my husband is really unable to go there. You are fortunate too to have supportive family. My family do not respond to illness well.

i too found the stage you are at the worst. Of course it's hard to think positively but I always believed I would survive. Breast cancer is so much more successfully treated these days. 

The other very hard time for me was going to and from treatment on my own. Although physically I could do that especially at the beginning, psychologically I again felt alone and isolated. Don't refuse help if you are offered it.

all the best for everything and again thanks for responding.

Hi I dont know where to start, my partner as need told she as cancer , and all she is doing is kicking off at me, what can I do 

Sorry to hear about your your bad news, 

My girlfriend as got cancer and she does nothing but kick off at  e, even tho I spend hours at ho8wiyh her, help me plz

Hi! I have prostate cancer, which I realise - even at 57 - is less of a big deal than so many other cancers. However I also work in the third sector with many people facing cancer and I have become acutely aware of the particular stress on partners of those with cancer. My current diagnosis has brought this home in an acute way. I'm not saying I'm feeling great about the diagnosis but I do realise that my partner bears the brunt of this. At least I am the one who has the diagnosis and of course the person standing beside me bears this burden in a completely different way. Somewhere T S Eliot says something about how out experience of pain and loss is actually more nearly experienced by those who who are one step removed.