Just diagnosed with breast cancer

Hi I'm vanessa I'm 37 married and a mum of 3.

Friday I was given the news.My biopsy came back that I hhave breast cancer.They have given it a stage 2 but I nend further tests etc and that grading could change.

I feel like I'm in a dream that it's not real I can't eat sleep or focus.I'm terrified...all along I was told it looked like something other than cancer and they were all in agreement.And when my 1st biopsy was inconclusive they even said everything seemed ok but I'd need another for a diagnosis.

So when my breast cancer nurse sat next to me for my results I just knew.....

I'm at the beginning of my long journey through this..

And I'm asking for help from people just like me who feel wht I'm feeling..

Thankyou all xxx

  • Hi Sue That wasn't a ramble. It was really informative. I have had my lumpectomy cancelled. Chest infection I have been given letrozole and I am wondering how it affects you. I didn't have blood tests or scan. Don't know if that's because they just want me on them quickly to prevent tumour growing any larger while I have the chest infection. I haven't really had a chance to talk to anyone about everything but my treatment plan sounds like yours. So thanks for all that xx

     

  • Hi there, sorry to see you have a chest infection on top of everything else and I hope they sort it out quickly for you so you can go ahead with the op asap.. I didn't have any blood tests (and still haven't for that matter) since before all this began but I did have am MRI. before the diagnosis was confirmed. I think the MRI is only done for certain types of breast cancer but don't quote me that as I am not sure, I can only speak from my own experience.  I am on Anastrozle but did not start taking it until after I had completed my radiotherapy but I do know of others who have been given hormone tablets straight away like you. We all react diffierently to the hormone treatment but I seem to have got off pretty lightly from any major side effects. I get night sweats now (but no hot flushes during the day) and my eyesight has deteriorated quite a lot compared to how it was a few months ago but I cannot say if that's caused by the tablets or just me getting older(!)

    Take care and fingers crossed you are well enough to have your op soon. Do let me know how you get on. Sue xx

  • Hi everyone 

    Finally had my pesky drain pulled..WOOPIE!!

    And it didn't hurt one bit thankfully.I had a very funny very gentle very camp male nurse..what a wonderful man!

    I'm feeling a little sore after the fact though but I guess it's been upset a little bit.

    My pathology report meeting is Friday this week but unlike dunanat1 I'm not feeling overly apprehensive.I'm still feeling quite positive after my op.I will let you know if this changes however?

    I hope you are all well ?

    Love Ness x 

  • Yee Haa, bet that feels great (if a little sore!) Love the sound of the nurse too, it makes such a difference to have such good people about doesn't it?  

    So glad you are still upbeat and I have my fingers crossed for both you and Dunanat1 for your results meetings.

    I am back to see my consultant on Wednesday. Having seen him only ten days ago I am not sure what this appointment is for but only two days to go to find out...

    Take care everyone   Sue xx

  • Hi sue

    Just wanted to wish you luck for Wednesday if I don't get the chance before

    Take care Ness x 

  • Hi Vanessa my name is Anita I also got my diagnosis on Xmas eve and on New Year's Eve got the date for having a lumpectomy and nodes removed this was done and am recovering from the op and I am now awaiting the pathology results on 21 January. This was a great shock from finding the lump to surgery was only 2 weeks I already have had major heart surgery and have type 2 diabetes. I wish you all the luck with this and understand totally your feelings but you will get through it I have a tin with a lid and have made labels for each part of the journey so far. when they are done I put the relevant label in the tin shut the lid then move on to the next one I find this is my way of dealing with each hurdle in my brain by closing the lid and on to the next, helps me with positive thinking 

     

     

     

  • Hi I had my op on 5th Jan and had to have the blue dye the day before this seems to be standard for the nodes to be seen during surgery so they can pinpoint them for removal there was no side effects from the blue dye I went out after for a coffee. I am awaiting the pathology report on 21 Jan and the way forward as my lump was oestrogen led I probably will have hormone therapy they also found HER2 so very nervous to which treatment they are going to do and what they have found I have wobbles but am trying to remain positive

  • Thank you so much. It is such a relief to read all the chats My hubby and my friends are very kind and supportive and I am grateful,for that but it is not the same as hearing from people who really know because they are going through it themselves. I am sorry your eyesight has deteriorated so much. Could that be a temporary thing? I feel like I am in a dream world just now and I am scared about how my life will change once the treatment starts. I have always been very busy and independent. Am I going to lose that independence. I am 60 this year although I don't feel it. Will this tip me over into little old lady mode? I have so many silly questions that probably no one can answer. I just know I don't want to be frail and fragile.

    Best wishes to you xx Helen

  • I too have the pathology report this week so know exactly what you are going through I do not know if the nodes are clear but at least the lump is out of me good luck with the pathology report be thinking of you 

  • Hi there and thank you for your thoughts.

    Tumour was Grade 2 with clear margins. Two (out of 2) lymph nodes were not clear (one micro and one macro) and I have been scheduled for full node clearance in two weeks time - I have yet to fully 'process' this information. Really hope that all goes well for you. X