Just diagnosed with breast cancer

Hi I'm vanessa I'm 37 married and a mum of 3.

Friday I was given the news.My biopsy came back that I hhave breast cancer.They have given it a stage 2 but I nend further tests etc and that grading could change.

I feel like I'm in a dream that it's not real I can't eat sleep or focus.I'm terrified...all along I was told it looked like something other than cancer and they were all in agreement.And when my 1st biopsy was inconclusive they even said everything seemed ok but I'd need another for a diagnosis.

So when my breast cancer nurse sat next to me for my results I just knew.....

I'm at the beginning of my long journey through this..

And I'm asking for help from people just like me who feel wht I'm feeling..

Thankyou all xxx

  • Hi Vanessa

    How you feeling today?

    I just dont know what to do with myself, im at work but just cant get this out my head, just said to my boss this time tomorrow I will know one way or the other.

    I have got such a lot to do not even sent any chirstmas cards yet, been getting wrong of my mam lol but she doesnt know about my lump I didnt want to worry her, I just feel so tired and drained, im so nervous for tomorrow but cant wait for my results even if its bad news I will be able to hopefully get my mind round it, the not knowing is horrible. 

    Good luck for christmas eve, ill be thinking of you.

    Michelle xXx

  • Hi Michelle, 

    Sorry your having a bad day.I know it's hard to concentrate whilst working and the waiting really is horrible.

    I'm feeling the same today,work has been so hard because what is about to happen to me consumes my thoughts and I'm finding myself daydreaming all the time.

    You have no need to worry about your appointment the breast clinics are excellent and the nurses will make you feel at ease.

    I hope everything goes well hon.

    Keep in touch,vanessa xxx 

  • Hi, and sorry to butt in, but I wanted to wish you both all the very best for tomorrow & Thursday....  will be thinking of you with everything crossed,  Take care  Sue xx

  • Thankyou sue,

    Hospital called me today and have given me dates for my pre op assessment and my surgery a week later on January 6th.

    It's such a strange feeling knowing I'm having surgery that quickly it's a whirlwind.It's a good thing of course but it's all so quick yet so slow. (Just like you said)

    Can't wait to get it all out of the way and have something positive to set my sights on.

    Thankyou for your wishes vanessa x 

  • Hi, wow, that is quick, they really are looking after you well aren't they, which is great. People often describe this as a rollercoaster with all its many ups and down. Yes, after the op there was the recovery and further treatments but knowing they had removed the tumours was a massive relief for me and I am so glad for you that it won't be long before you are there too.  Take care Sue x

  • Sue,

    May I ask how long you were in hospital after your op?How long was your recovery? And when you started other treatments? I know each case is assessed individually but it may give me some idea.

    Thanks ness

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    Hi, I went through this two years ago, aged 36, and have now come out the other side. If you have any questions I'm happy to help. There are lots of posts on here which should answer many questions - which will no doubt keep popping up along the way!  All of the feelings you are experiencing are very 'normal' and I found great comfort in support from others in a similar situation. Take care x

     

     

  • Hi Vanessa,

    I too have my preoperative assessment next week followed by surgery on the 6th; however, I have to go in the day before to have blue dye injection - does anyone know if this is standard procedure and like Vanessa, I would be keen to find out how long others were kept in hospital following their op. Good luck for the days ahead. X  

  • Hello

    I cant say I've heard of blue dye injection.I do have my meeting tomorrow to discuss everything further so perhaps they may mention it to me then.

    I will be thinking of you keep in touch xxx

  • Hi all, I had my bilateral lumpectomies done as a day case and was lucky to be first on the list so was being discharged again by 3.30pm. Like Dunanat1, I had the nuclear injections the day before which I was really dreading but actually I didn't feel a thing! The dye they inject is clear and follows a path from the tumour to the first lymph nodes under the armpit. Once you are under anaesthetic for the op itself the blue dye is injected and again it travels to the lymph nodes. It's blue so that the nodes can be found more easily during the op (you will have a grey face for a couple of days afterwards and blue/green pee! I also had blue patches on my boobs for a couple of months. Not painful at all, just blue)

    I was back at work (mornings only to start with) three weeks after the op. Like many people I wanted to get back to my normal routine as soon as I could but in hindsight that was too early and I should have taken longer to recover, emotionally as well as physically. I wasn't really up to much to begin with to be honest.

    I started radiotherapy exactly two months after the op and had the standard 15 daily sessions over three weeks (although this can vary depending on which NHS trust you are under). I had a bone density scan before it started because the hormone treatment I am now on tends to weaken the bones so they monitor you on a regulat basis. My next one will be two years after starting the tablets.  Again, I took three weeks off work afterwards to recover but still have some pretty brutal side effects going on even now.

    I have my first appointment back with the consultant next Wednesday, so just over nine months after the op, and am preparing my list of questions for him as we speak...

    As you said, we are all treated individually so timings and treatments will differ but I hope this has helped you both even a little and I apologise for such a long ramble! It is a long old haul whatever happens but looking back the year has whizzed by and, as Smidge has said, you will come out the other side.

    Take care of yourselves Sue xx