Hi Marzy,

Welcome to this friendly forum. Sure your family are suffering but its because they love you. We all try to hide how we are feeling but sometime I think it would be better to show each other how we truely feel as I think it would be better for both sides and a more honest way of dealing with our emotions. You are just going through a bad patch at the moment, something most of us go through at some stage. I feel sure with the sense of humour I think you have, you will bounce back soon. Wishing you all the best and please keep in contact, Brian.

Hi Marzy,

So sorry to hear about your recurrent issues and the lymphoma is just another kick you don't. My partner tried and did keep it all to herself and all I will say on that is that if for any reason things take a turn for the worse, then you may not have time and will regret it. Through experience they may feel that you should have known they would have been there for u. Jean my partner only had two months and the problem with lymphoma(hers were secondary's from gastric) is they spread. Of course the hope is you pull through this , which we all hope you do and beat this terrible disease but pls don't  face this alone, you will need all the help and support you can get !!

GOOD LUCK

hello brian  , and thank you so much for your reply   it was very kind of you ,  i do think that by trying to be the happy fun loving person i am will get me through and save my family from worring . but its getting harder every day . im so tierd all the time . I hate it , but its nice having this place and people like you to chat to , thank you so much  marlene 

Hi Marlene,

With regard to being tired, I dont know what medication your on but most cancer medication does take its toll on us. So thats why you may be feeling so tied. I was very lucky as my prostate cancer was caught in time. I only had hormone therapy for two years and 37 radiotherapy treatments but even that made me a little tired. I also think that having cancer plays havoc with our emotions and that can make us feel low and tired.

Something to make you smile now. One of the side effects of hormone therapy is it gave me severe hot flushes. If I had a pound coin for every time my wife said, "now you know what we women have to go through", I would be a rich man. But it did its job and I have made a good recovery.

Take care, sending best wishes and kind thoughts your way, Brian.