hello, my name is Penny, and I am finding it really hard to cope with seeing my mum's conditions getting worse every day - how on earth do you deal with something so hearbreaking x
Hi Penny, sorry to hear about your Mum! I lost my beloved Dad a few days ago and it was hard seeing him get progressively worse towards the end. I just constantly held his hand, touched him, hugged him, told him how much I loved him and made sure he was comfortable as much as possible. There really isn't any easy way to deal with losing a parent. I'm still in shock, can't believe he is gone. My thoughts and prayers are with you
My Daddy died near on four years ago. It was awful but I have come through it - I loved him so very much (life will never be the same)! Just hold your Mum's hand and tell her that you love her.
Hi I'm so sorry to hear about your dad and my heart goes out to you. You never think you will be in this position and without a parent. It's the hardest thing ever. I hope you are being looked after too now.
Hello. Sorry to also hear of your situation. You are right life will never be the same. Trying to stay strong for my father's sake but he is losing the love of his life. Life is so cruel. Thank you for your reply. Never been through anything like this and you feel so alone.
It's really hard isn't it? - guess what? It's going to get harder
My wife died in October after several years of treatment and I had to make the heart breaking decision to stop treatment when she was past saving and be there with her and hold her when she died.
We were married for just short of 25 years
Yes - it's going to get harder
Now is the time though to spend that time together, to try to think of the things that you won't get to do when she's gone - take photos, tell stories make recordings.
Have that difficult discussion about funeral arrangements it'll be so much easier for you all if you know what she wanted - even if you know that she wasn't bothered and would be happy to leave it up to you all.
I don't know whether it applies in your case but the one thing my wife was most upset about was not having the chance to have grandchildren and I wish I'd thought at the time to have her write a letter to her unborn grandchildren with the promise to let them have it when the time was right.
I know that all this is hard but it sounds as if time is short and you won't get a chance afterwards and you'll be glad that you spent this last time well.
Oh and when it does happen and it does get harder - don't be a stranger on the forum eh?
Hi Graham, thansk for your input, firslty i must say how sorry i am to hear of your news, and yes i have no doubt things will get harder, and my life is about to change for ever - I am fully aware of that, but as stated i am trying to say strong for my dad, they have been married for nearly fifty years - its going to be unbearale fo him - bringing sensitive subjects up is upsetting , but i do know at some point (sooner rather than later) it will have to be brought to peoples attention.
Never thought i would go through life without my mum, watching her day by day getting worse it simply is hearbreaking my heart - never been through anything like this myself before, and feel so helpless dont you.
Im sure you need no reminder of that, i wish you all the very best and stay strong - thank you
