Hi Mandy

I have had a lobescopy but - hasn't spread so I am not in the same situation as you.  Even if I had gone through/were going through the same - I am so sure that we would have different needs and feel things differenlty and have different reactions.  I feel for you so much today as todayI had to also re enter the hospital consulting room - and you had such difficult information to take in,  Personally, I go into superwoman mode, then hide under the duvet for a while, then become angry and then apologise, then want to talk for hours and then want silence and then become irritable and then want to plan great events - erratic!  Unpredictable .......and probably very annoying!  How about just going with your gut - demonstrate what you are feeling - meet your needs emotionally - say what they are.  I got so overwhelmed with diagnosis, treatment, recovery, relapses that I lost what I was feeling and my voice.  Does that make sense or is it rubbish?  Sending you my thoughts.  Sian