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Hi my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer on 19 December 2014, the prognosis was good, they would be able to operate and he may or may not need chemo, but they wouldnt know till after the operation. He had the lower right lobe of his lung removed on 9th January 2015 and discharged from hospital a week later, with the news that the surgeon had removed all of the cancer, he would be reffered to an oncologist for follow up treatment. His first appt with oncologist he was told he would need chemo, and we needed to build him up after the op in preparation for the chemo,6 weeks later on his 3rd appointment with the oncologist, he was no better, still in severe pain, and no weight gain, it was decided to send him for a further scan, which resulted in being told that the cancer was now attached to his chest wall, twice the size of the previous tumour and an operation was not an option. They sent him for for ten blasts of radiotherpy, Following the tattoo session of his first appointment we were then told it has spread to his lymph nodes in his chest, and his right adrennal gland. The radiotherapy did not shrink the tumour but it did ease the pain. He then started his chemo, which involved a full day at the unit every 3 weeks, he had his final blast on Fridat 10 July, he had a final scan on Sunday 26th July to see how the chemo had worked. unfortunately he took a turn for the worse and I had to take him to hospital on the Monday, were they started treating him for pneumonia. We finally got the results of the scan on Thursday to be told that the cancer had spread to his stomach and his liver, but they were still hopefull, however by this time his stomach was so swollen he looked pregnant, a further scan showed the cancer had spread dramatically in the past 5 days, there was no more they could do for him, but keep him comfortable, they stopped all medication except morphine, We were devastated and did not know what to say to each other. He died on Monday 3rd August. I still cant believe what has happened, i feel so empty and numb, I miss him so much. Reading some of these posts has been helpfull, because you realise that, this is happening to a lot of other people.

 

  • Linda, I am so sorry for the very sad loss of your husband.  What a terrible time you both had in those few, short months.  I am afraid there are too many stories like yours, with hopes being raised and then dashed and people being left devastated.  I'm afraid there is nothing I can say to ease the obviously awful pain you are feeling but I wish you well and want to say that we are always here if you want to come and talk.  It really does help.  x

  • lyLinda I am so, so sorry to hear about your husband. My husband Kev died on Saturday 1st August and I miss him terribly. The house is just so quiet and strange without him. He'd just had his 61st birthday in July and we had so many plans for the future. He was diagnosed in February this year with bile duct cancer, which had spread to his liver and spine....he looked so well, it was a terrible shock. He had a few sessions of Chemotherapy at the Freeman hospital and they were fantastic, but he developed low platelets and sepsis and died suddenly....thankfully at home with me and his two sons by his side. I cry each night that I come to bed and cannot imagine what the future will be like without him....everyday is a challenge. I have fantastic friends and family, though my boys live away, but it's not the same as having my precious hubby by my side. I know exactly how you are feeling....take care my love. X