Hi Jo,

I am so sorry to read your story. I can understan him saying no treatment for sometimes the treatment is almost as bad as the cancer. I can also empathise with what you say about trying to be strong for him. It is so hard  for outwardly you put on a smiley face but inside you feel totaly devastated. We all wish we could make our loved ones better but the reality is all we can do is to love and support them as best as we can. Even more difficult as you have younsters. Try not to bottle your emotions up; if need be come on here and rant or rave. People on here will understand for many have been in similar situation.

Sending kind thoughts your way, Brian.

Hi Jo  so sorry for the situation you are in. All I can say is there will be difficult times ahead. Enjoy the good days get through the bad ones best you can. Smile when things are ok cry when you need to. Rant if it makes you feel better. If you need any support I have found this forum is very good as people on here has or are experiencing the things you are going through. Keep your chin up and stay strong 

So sorry 4 u, what is ur husband battling? I was told I have terminal cancer last year, have 5 and 9 year old. I'm on trial chemo, tired all the time, no idea wwhen it's going to take me, I don't look ill, rubbish isn't it. Xxx

Thank you so much, today was the day he told the oncologist no he didn't want the treatment. It was so hard to hear him say. Like you say i have to be strong for him and make sure he does all he wants to achieve on his bucket list and spend as much quality time together as a family. Thank you xx

Thank you. X

Hi so sorry to hear that hunny. My husband found out he had bowel cancer 2 months after our little boy who is now 2 was born. Hospital did operation after operation and chemo and radio and it just keeps coming. I couldn't begin to imagin what you are going through, you sound such a strong person. You are so right it is so rubbish. Xxx

How does he feel, is he poorly? I am fighting this all the way, and I don't believe it will win.

I'm in Chester and go to clatterbridge cancer centre, who are so positive and give me hope.   X

Jo - how about finding a way to keep yourself supported as you have so, so, so much to deal with.  Today must have been so difficult and yet - waking up tomorrow morning with this knowledge is also going to be so hard.  Words are so useless at these times - is it ok if I just send you an ehug?  

A hard question - do you agree with your husband's decision?

Sian x