Hi Mary53

No, I certainly don't think you are being selfish in thinking you should be getting support and reassurance following your diagnosis.

I hope you find support here, as there are others who I am sure will understand what you are going through now

Please let us know how you are getting on, following your appointment with the oncologist.

Best wishes

Jane

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Hi Mary  - I hope others who have been newly diagnosed come along to support you soon.  Just a little tip. - if you click on the search forum section on the purple strip at the top of the page and type in something like 'newly diagnosed with breast cancer',  hopefully you will see other recent discussions and be able to post on the thread. 

You are not being in the least bit selfish but I do think honesty is the best policy before resentments creep in.  Tell your family that you are all there for each other but at this point in time you need their support and would really appreciate it if they could be strong for you.  You have a lot to face and don't need extra worries.

How did your oncologist appointment go?  Xx

Hi Mary, I know exactly how you feel as I am going through the same thing with my family,I feel like I don't get any sympathy and they don't have a clue what I am going through. And its not selfish you have to think of yourself.

Hi Jane, Max56, Sian and Cheyenne 123,

Thanks for your welcome replies.

I've decided that I am going to continue living my life as I would normally with this slight inconvenience of breast cancer!

The oncologist has said I am perfect to take part in trials for a new cocktail of drugs which I am considering. Friends have tried to dissuade me but I feel if others hadn't taken part in trials in the past we wouldn't be at the stage we are in treating cancers, so I'm going to do my bit. Although, it all depends if the various departments can coordinate themselves because something called Christmas and New Year are coming up. I think someone should remind them that cancer doesn't take holidays off!! I won't know if I can take part until Monday so until them I am on hold.

My husband has now "got it" and realises that although I'm not on medication yet I still need lots of help and reassurance and I'm happy to say he has stepped up to the plate and so far, so good but we'll see.

Friends have been very supportive and weird - I have been asked "have you chosen your wig yet?; ooh, you'll get really fat; ohh, you'll lose a lot of weight; but the best one from my step daughter - "who are you leaving your jewellery to?"  Good job I have a sense of humour.

Cheyenne 123 - I hope your family and friends rally round you and give you the support you need. I think that maybe they are in shock as well and don't know how to handle it. You need to tell them how you feel and how you want to talk/not talk about it. 

This site helps to get things off your chest and you know everyone else on it has been through it or going through it

Take care

Mary xx