Hi Karen, welcome to a very caring and friendly site, although I realise that you'd rather not be here of course. Being diagnosed with any type of cancer is a massive shock for all of us, particulaly while waiting for those initial results. Until you know exactly what the issue is, your mind naturally goes into overdrive 24/7 and you start imagining all sorts of horrible scenarios, most of which will probably never happen. Please try not to google as a lot of websites are very misleading and contain outdated information, stick to known sites like this one or Macmillan if you can. Once you have had your appointment on Tuesday you should know a lot more about the type and grade of your cancer and be given a proposed treatment plan. It's also possible that more tests will be arranged, such as an MRI, so you might not have all the answers yet but at least you will know something. We all deal with this in our own way of course but my suggestion is to hold off telling the rest of your family until after Tuesday so that alongside the bad news you call also tell them something positive about what is going to be done about it. It's the not knowing that's the most difficult bit so please hang in there and you will get through it. I know it's far easier said than done but try to distract yourself over the weekend as much as possible and do some fun stuff if you can. All the very best for Tuesday and do come back and tell us how you got on if you would like to. Take care  Sue x 

Hello Ratsie,

Welcome to the forum! Telling children is never easy and susu has given you some excellent advice. We do have a page on our website on Talking to Children about Cancer which you can find here. We also try to answer the difficult question of How to tell my Child I have Cancer here and the different factors to consider when broaching the subject with them. I know your George is a big boy now but the information may still be relevant for him.

I thought I would also point you in the direction of this thread as JoB69 was asking herself the very same question this morning so I think you two may have a lot to share at the moment.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks Sue, thank you for your support, good advice and ideas.

I am not telling family until after Tuesday, when I know more details.....

Such a surreal feeling, talking to my parents and knowing my heart is breking for them, holding it all in is proving to very difficult, I see my parents daily, so trying to act normal is tough.  Luckily I have a really bad cold virus at the moment, so I am putting my mood and reason I am off work is due to this....horrible lying to them, but it is in every ones best interest for now.

I will be strong and I will get through this, failure is NOT an option :p

Thank you xx

Hi Karen, sorry to see you have a cold on top of everything else and I hope you saw my answer to your bruising question on your other thread. I know it's a lot to handle at the moment but you are "lucky" to be seen so quickly after your tests (I waited 16 days for mine and it seemed forever!) When you know what is happening things will calm down a little bit and I am sure your family will be a great support & comfort for you once they get over the initial shock. Parents are parents whatever your age and and they can also help with talking to your son too. Take care Sue x  ps love your avatar photo, how cute!

Hi Helen welcome. You have done the best thing and joined the site I did not join until after my op.

Like Sue has said you feel your in a really dark place. The waiting for results is awful but once you

Have been to your appointment on Tuesday and had the results it will seem clearer. The day I got

My results I looked round the waiting room there were ladies aged early 20 to 80 all going through

The same Breast Cancer. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday. Regards Jean.

Hi there Jean, lovely to see you pop up again, how are you getting on now? Sue x

Thank you Jean, yes, all up in the air and feeling out of sorts, I just want to know and move on.

As you can gather I am a very impatience.....

Last week I was looking round the waiting room in the hospital and thought, 1 in 3 of us are going to get some really terrible news today.........

Take care Jean and Thank you for helping me xx

Love Karen xx

Thank you Sue, yes I did see your reply, most helpful and has calmed my mind somewhat, so thank you xx

My Dad is also being treated for cancer and a heart condition, so telling him will be just the worst thing i could possibly think of right now.........

The avatar pic is of my furbaby, he is my springer, hes just over 12 months old, love him so much, I am sure he knows something is going on........

Love K xx

Hi Karen, so sorry that your Dad is having such a tough time as well, no wonder you are feeling overwhelmed at the moment.. will be thinking of your tomorrow and I hope that talking it over and having a treatment plan will reassure you that you can & will get through all this.

Your lovely springer will keep a smile on your face for sure and I agree that they can pick up on our moods so hope he gives you some extra cuddles to help.  Take care and do let us know how you get on.  Sue xx

Hi Karen, I don't mean to intrude but just wondered how you are after Tuesday's appointment? Take care Sue xx