Hi, rachie, i dont know how old your Grandma is but i am 71 and have refused radio and chemotherapy. i am just taking hormone therapy.  i decided that i didnt want to put myself through so much at my age.  It is so much easier when your family respect your feelings and decisions so please try to understand how Grandma feels, sometimes you feel too tired to cope.  Give her your time and company, that would mean the world to her, i'm sure.

Hi rachie

Welcome to the forum but sad to see the reason behind your being here. Some 8 years ago I faced a similar dilema when my Dad(Grandad to our two children) was diagnosed with cancer and decided against any treatment other than pain relief. He explained that he talked it through with his medical team and was aware that his body would struggle with the treatment on offer and preferred to choose some quality of life whilst he had it. During the time he had, he laughed, enjoyed the company of others and was actually stronger than us in coping with his illness.  In time I realised he had made the right decision for him and it gave us the opportunity to talk about how we felt about each other and support him on his journey. Your Grandma and the rest of your family love you as much as  you love them and I hope you can get through this as a family. The forum offers a space for you to talk through your feelings at any time.Jules