Hi Kay, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad having kidney cancer. It seems like your Dad doesn't really want to discuss this with you and that isn't unusual in the intial stage of being diagnosed with cancer. Perhaps your Dad needs some time to come to terms with this diagnosis himself before he can talk to you about it. Give him some time and then approach him again in a supportive way and tell him that you care about him and that is why you would like him to talk to you about it. Have you and your Dad been close prior to this diagnosis? If so then hopefully he will talk to you when he's ready. Is he talking to anyone about it?

Come back on to the forum and let us know how it goes for you. Tell us more about your relationship with your Dad. Even if your Day refuses to discuss this with you, come back here anyway, because you can get support for yourself from other members of the forum.

Take care.

Lorraine