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Coping with mum having terminal cancer?

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Hi everyone! I'm Laura, I'm 23 and new to the forum! My mum is 52, and is it her 4th year battling terminal cancer which started in her breast and spread to her lungs. It's been a long emotional roller coaster, but she is doing amazingly well considering.

I'm getting more concerned lately. About 2 weeks ago my mum randomly started being sick a couple of times a day, she would be fine the  just throw up. It happened for about a week, she then saw her doctor who said it could just be the 'joys' of cancer and prescribed her some new anti sickness medication. It's been great untill last night and today ( about a week on the medication) where she was sick again 3 tokes lasts for night and4 times today

Has anyone else had/heard of this? I'm worried because  I link vomiting to the last stages of cancer when your body rejects near enough everything. The doctor didn't seem too concerned but wants to see her again on Thursday.

 

Just after some reassurance really. She's got a body scan booked next week so I know soon enough we will find out but it's a big worry. I have a 6 year old girl and it's just me and ber at my house so I don't really have anybody to talk too which is hard as I often bottle it all up then explode and really struggle for a few weeks.

 

 

 

 

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    Hello Laura,

    I am also 23 and my Mum was 52 when she passed on the 14th July this year. She was diagnosed with terminal oesophageal junction cancer on 1st May this year. It all happened so quickly, I didn't even notice changes symtoms towards the end, except dramatic weight loss and as the syringe driver kicked in my mum was totally spaced out. To the point she just slept constantly. 

    ​I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you. I know how you feel, when you have to be strong for her it's hard, as you have to keep your emotions at bay.

    Your mum sounds like such an amazing tropper.  My mum tried lots of different anti sickness tablets, but they didn't always seem to work. I thought that was just the side effect of the cancer. I haven't ever heard of that being a sign of coming towards the end. 

    ​Sorry I can't really shed much light on that. But emotionally I understand how you feel.

    ​Sending you light, and healing. 

     

    ​All the best,

    ​Janna

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    I'm sorry to hear about your mum. My mum also had terminal cancer, I'm 26 so a little older and I'm one for bottling things up too. You're mum sounds like my mum - she's ok in herself as far as she can be its everyone else who isn't!

    Don't keep things inside it's dangerous - even if you just go for a run, talk to a colleague or friend or even just get it out on here if you don't you will break down. X

     

     

     

     

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