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Mum only has weeks left..............

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My mum found out she had lung Cancer in July & we have now been told she only has weeks left as it has spread to her brain. she is on steroids and looks well ( apart from being bloated) I cant understand how this is happening so quickly. How is she looking ok now buy yet only has weeks left? Does it really happen that quick? i just dont know what to do, i want to spend all my time with her but work full time & have a young daughter - how am i going to cope without my mum? i cant imagine life without her & just cant stop crying, the smallest thing sets me off. im being strong when with her but fall apart on my own. just don't know what to do xxxxxxx

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    So sorry to read of your mum's illness. My mum has just been diagnosed with a mass in her right lung. Considering she has COPD and was a smoker I think it's a fair presumption that it will be a malignancy. I also lost my son to brain cancer in Nov 2012. Unfortunately I understand all too well how you are feeling.        

        I do wish that the medics wouldn't say that someone only has days/weeks to live. Quite often the patient will improve and remain quIte well for some time. Please don't waste what precious time you have left Spend time making memories, help her to wear her favourite night dress/Perfume. You may not think it but you will go on. What's the alternative?                                                                                                        I can't believe that once again I'm reading the cancer forums. Take care of yourself, stay strong x

               

     

     

     

     

     

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    Hi, I know exactly how you're feeling, my dad too has been diagnosed with lung cancer and also has been given weeks to live, like your mum he is also on steroids which have given him an appetite so he is eating more. He's becoming more breathless so I know the illness is progressing and I too can't imagine life without him and like you I stay strong while I'm with him but on my own I'm in bits, in fact the tears are flowing while I write this. I have spoken to Macmillan who are a huge help, they have a freephone number and will chat to you. I hope you manage to stay strong for your mum, there's always someone in this forum to chat too aswell. Stay strong, wishing you and your mum peace x

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    Hi pptheo

    Sorry to hear about your mum.

    It's nice to see that you have received some welcoming replies from members of our friendly community.

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    Hey girl don't feel down, I'm going through the same thing with my mum but she's lasted longer than what they have said already! I'm 16 and it's hard for me but I can't imagine what it's like for you,,, I'm sure you'll cope, but ofcorse it will be hard, she is lucky to have a daughter like you xxxxx

    Best wishes

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    Hello,

     

    I know exactly how you feel.  My mum was diagnosed with oesophageal junction cancer on the 1st May 2015 and passed away on 14th July.

    I was an awful ordeal,  I know how you feel. I would hold myself together infront of her and totally fall to pieces on my own. My mum was my bestfriend,  it was heartbreaking seeing her go through it. She was only 52.

    It's important to stay as strong as you can when you are with your mum. When alone, crying your heart out, it will make you feel slightly better.  

    My mum was a healthy dog walker,  never smoked. It all happened to quickly, it's terrifying how quickly cancer can get a person. 

    Can you not go off with stress? That's what I did in the end. The doctors and work were very understanding.  

     

    Janna

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