I found a lump a couple of months back, monitored it as my body was changing with losing weight, so wasn't sure if it was hardened breast tissue or another symptom of my mid cycle bleeding and sore painful breasts. Rollercoaster couple of months has left me well and truley drained. I'm 38 and apparently people keep telling me i'm young, but all consultants say about being young is that it usually means it's aggressive and for that reason I wonte get away with not having chemo and radiotherapy. Just dawned on me today, how nice it would be to have someone to talk freely to, who understands what i'm going through. So bored of poeple (not meaning to) but sounding patronising with their 'keep fighting talk'. and my family keeping an eye on me like I'm going to do something crazy like go for a bike ride! lol ive recently had my op to remove the cancer and waiting for the reuslts to see if it's spread to the lymph nodes. I believe it's called 'limbo.' I'm trying to stay positive. At first I thought of it like this, I have cancer and after the op, I don't have cancer! that got me through the first coupe of days post op. knowing there are lots of other inspiring ladies out there going through the same thing, makes it a little easier. I hope I can be of some support to lots of you on here as well as picking up lots of tips on how to support familiy members. it's easy to forget sometimes they are going through this nightmare with you.