Hi Kirsty

I can relate so much to your post and the way you speak of your dad is how I speak of mine, hero and best friend. I face the reality of losing my daddy very soon, too soon to this disease. 

My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in 2012 he battled so bravely throughout and very rarely would you even no he had it. That was until dec 2014 when his health steadily declined we learnt it had spread to his brain and he had radio in March and began a 3rd line chemo too. The chemo did more harm then good and he became so poorly that he had to stop treatment. Which leaves us where we are today, my dad my strong daddy now weighs less then me at only 9st he looks so skinny and frail he now stays in bed most the day and is under the care of the hospice. 

I don't know the right words to say or how to help because I don't know how to do it myself. But I just wanted you to know you are not alone and I am here to talk if you need to xxx

Hi,

I just posted on another thread as I am in a similar position. My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 prostate and bone cancer in summer 2012. However, very recently we've all noticed a decline in his health - the fatigue and the pain is more frequent and he looks sickly. 

I just can't cope with the thought that I might lose my dad soon and that my son, neice and nephew will all lose the Granddad they love so much.

I try as much as possible to spend as much time as I can with my dad and when we are together we smile and giggle but deep down my heart is broken. I try to live in the moment and concentrate on making the most of my time with him but when I watch my son's face light up as he sees my dad I just can't help to think that there will be a time soon when we no longer have him in our lives and the thought of that is so, so, painful. This is eating me up and I hate that there is nothing I can do.

I am so sorry you are going through this too. I can't give you advice on how to manage but you are not alone x 

Hi Kirsty. My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in may this year too. And he kicked it's *** until three weeks ago when  it started to take the upper hand. Dad had had one blast of radiotherapy in July which  helped for a while but he was given a dose again at beginning of October when  he was clearly starting to fail. I had to have my Dad admitted to hospital on 24th Oct and after many a badgering call and with support from fantastic staff he was admitted to Ayrshire Hospice on 29th Oct. He passed over on  31st Oct. His service was on Monday and it's like groundhog day every morning for me.

Fill every minute you can to lay the foundations of your memories. My Dad and I had out moments over the years but it was blooming cancer which bonded us these past 6 months.

Staystrong

Kirsty. Xx (Kiz)

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