Hi, I'm new here and I'd like to start by saying how sorry I am that we have all had to meet under such awful circumstances but also need to add how grateful I am to have found somewhere I can ask for help and guidance. My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer 3 weeks ago. I called an ambulance when he lost all feeling down one side and fell over, I thought he had a stroke. He has been unwell for months now but after numerous tests the doctors had said he had calcification of the bowel and to basically be on his way. Whilst in A and E the doctors did some scans to check for a stroke and that's when they found the tumour on his brain.
Naturally I was devastated. After more tests and a broncoscopy ( forgive the spelling!) we found out he had inoperable cancer. The report stated poorly differentiated non small cell carcinoma with metastasis to lung, brain, liver, adrenal glands and mediastinum. He has since discovered a large lump below his belly button which is believed to be further spread to the bowel. He is on a high dose of steroids at the moment and he looks so unwell. Barely eating, he has lost over a stone in weight, his skin is going yellow and he spends a lot of time in bed. We see the oncologist for the first time next week and I'm so scared of what they will say. Chemo has been mentioned. I will of course care for my dad and do whatever needs to be done for him. I just wondered if anyone here has had anything similar? And can shed any light on what we may expect? I feel so lost. What questions should I be asking when we do see the oncologist? This is all so hard. I worry everyday looking at him just getting worse. I have 2 children under 5 to care for too ( one of which is severely disabled) and I don't know how I will cope? And I feel selfish asking that! So many emotions and I just don't know what to do or where to turn. Please help
