I was diagnosed with lung cancer 2 weeks ago which has spread to adrenal glands and bones. I am struggling to come to terms with this nightmare and am in pain a lot of the time. I am so angry and resentful and feeling sorry for myself, saying "why me" . It was only 7 months ago that my husband died from a brain tumour and I was still getting over that. I am 61. How can I find the strength to deal with this?