The waiting game

I had a routine screen, as part of the new initiative to capture under 50s, I am 47. I was called back as a lump was detected on the mammogram image, the consultant did an ultasound and a core biopsy...and now I wait. I only have to wait 8 days, but 2 days down and I am having a serious time keeping my focus and keep negativity out. Has anyone been through this process, if it is bad news next week will they tell me then or will they want to do more test before a diagnosis and action plan?

  • Hi there and welcome to a very friendly and caring site. All of us here have been through the stress and panic of waiting for results and so can understand your fears completely. It is natural to be worried and for your mind to go into overdrive 24/7, that's what we human do.. Much easier said than done I know but try to distract yourself with family & friends, do fun stuff, enjoy the sunshine, whatever helps you best...

    I waited 16 days for my biopsy results and yes, they were 16 very long days but you do get there and once you have the results it does get a little easier.

    Once the doctor has the results they can give you an initial diagnosis and treatment plan. An MRI will probably be the next step to confirm the position, size and spread (if any) which will determine what happens next. In my particular case, this was surgery, radiotherapy and hormone tablets but we are all different so my advice is to take it a step at a time and try not think too far ahead. Again, easier said than done.. I wish you all the very best for next week and am happy to chat in the meantime. Take care and do keep in touch if it helps.  Sue x

     

     

  • Thanks Susu. I see the consultant tomorrow, trying to stay positive. Although, I do suspect I won't get much sleep tonight. 

  • I have been where you are 2 1/2 years ago, found the lump through routine mamogram.  I am now fine and carrying on with life.

    As Susu, says it is small steps, it is a very worrying time - I remember very well how I felt at this time, it was horrible.  I think they said to me that only 1 in 12 they call back for further investigagtion, results in breast cancer, on good days I would say Oh it is probably nothing, and on bad days I would think the worst.  The worst did happen for me and I had all the treatment, chemo, radiotherapy and now hormone therapy.  I I came through it, I did'nt personnaly find the treatment too bad.  I am told that different hospitals have different procedures, but I had to wait 2 weeks following biopsy for the results, and they told me there and then. My breast care centre was , very caring and nothing was too much trouble. I did see my own G.P. and they offered me lots of support.

    I hope the next 8 days go quickly, I worked full time during this period, teaching.  The staff and pupils kept my mind off things.

    Take care, and wish you the best result.  Keep posting if you need any more support.  

    Diane xxx

  • Hi there, how was today's appointment, I hope it went well for you? Do let us know, if you would like to.  Take care  Sue xx

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    Thank you both  for your kind words. I am feeling, well to be fair I am not sure how I am feeling apart from tired and emotionally drained. The result of my biopsy is that it is cancer. I am booked in for lumpectomy (apologies for spelling) on 7th Sep. I am actually OK with this, I am more worried about the 2 week wait to make sure they have got it all and it has not spread to lymphs. I have told key family members, but the big one will be discussing it with my son (11 years) tomorrow.  I have been told I will definately have to have radiotherapy, I am an organiser and need to set things in place to keep my stress levels down, so do you think I will be able to drive safely after treatment or should I book friends/family in for taxi duty? And once again thank you for your positive words, I am trying to keep that glass half full!!

     

     

  • Hi there, sorry to hear your diagnosis and that you face having to tell your son today. Telling others always seems to make the situation more real and then you worry about them as well as yourself.. It sounds like you are going down the same route as I did a few months ago and, like you, I wanted to know all the details as soon as possible so if there is anything I can help with please let me know. We are all different of course but I went back to work three weeks after my lumpectomies and then took time off again for the radiotherapy. I had a daily 70 mile round for the treatment and had friends on taxi standby but actually coped easily with driving myself back & forth. Being a morning person I'd arranged the sessions for first thing each day and you quickly get into the routine. All the best for today and, as I say, if you have any other questons I am happy to help... Take care  Sue xx 

  • Hi

    Sorry to hear your news, but this is all very doable.  Yes, I like to plan, but I must say that the treatment did not affect my life too much.  I am a teacher, I went off work in the January and returned in the July for the last week of term, and back full time in September. I could have gone to work during treatment, but it was felt that working with children and the risk of infection this would be difficult.  I found the radiotherapy did not affect me at all, I drove there and went shopping when I finished.  Chemo was a bit different, but you may not need this.  But even with chemo I went out most days, I did all the housework and gardening.  My husband and I normally share this when I am working, so a plus for him!!!  I wanted to keep busy.  

    It really is small steps, when you know your treatment plan, it will be easier to plan.  I know people say this all the time, but I was very positive from the beginning, and I am sure this helped.  I had the attitude of, well let the treatment begin, and get it all over and done with.  

    I post on this site to hopefully support people who may be going through the same as me, I did not have the knowledge of this site, but I am sure it would have helped me during treatment.  People are so caring and knowledgeable on here.

    Please keep posting for any help and support people on here can give you.

    xxx