Hello Hopeful vic,

Thanks for sharing your story on our forum. As you haven't yet received any responses, I thought I would bump your post back to the top of the pile for others to see.

Your dad seems like a lovely person and seems to be more worried about you being worried than about his diagnosis! What a selfless person as you say.

I will now let our community come and say hello!

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Hopeful vic

I am sure you are equally worried about each other and your Dad is in protection mode (its what parents do no matter how old their children). When my husband was diagnosed (with Mesothelioma) he did not want to 'spread the word' to our children until all his tests were complete and he knew exactly what the prognosis was going to be. This period of waiting was nearly 4 months and was very difficult.  Having said that telling our children was never going to be easy and it was emotionally draining for everyone involved. My husband took the view that the longer he kept it to just us he could avoid the emotion it caused him. Of course eventually everything was out in the open and I then acted as go-between regarding updates as my husband did not want to talk about it with anybody as he could not cope with losing control of his emotions.  Our children were upset that we had not confided in them beforehand but did understand the reasons that their Dad chose this way.

I am sure your Dad knows that you are there for him and when the time is right that you can chat together and your support and love will help you all cope.  All the very best. Jules54