My old friend, and when I say old, she is not old in age, it's just that I have known her for long, she is only 35yrs and has two children, I haven't seen her in years as she lived abroad but I am close to her sister. Sunddenly , two weeks ago, I get a message saying that she is in a bad way, then moved to a hospice. I couldn't/can't believe it, things happened so quickly. I am not really sure what I am asking for here except seeking some comfort perhaps. I haven't been able to think or function normally, I feel completely useless as i don't even even know how to support her sisters except via phone messages and emails. I imagine that she wants to spend every minute with her children so I don't want to push for a visit.  I guess it is hard watching someone suffer even at a distance.  And she is only 35 and very beautiful and kind. It seems cruel to me...