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Bunnykins59
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In September 2014 I was diagnosed with grade 111 invasive carcinoma which was 26 mm. I had a lumpectomy and my surgeon after the op recommended he would send my breast tissue to USA for an Oncotype DX test. I was shocked to find that it came back high that the cancer would come back again. So they recommended chemo, which I did 5 out of 6 as I was too ill to have any more. I was the supposed to go for Radiotherapy but I refused. So the surgeon suggested Mastectomy which I had. In the whole  9 months I have been going through this my only son has been supportive by phone. But I recently discovered he was planning a break to Devon, I am afraid I got very upst and said it was disgusting that he hasn't been to see me. My whole family also think he should of visited.. Is it normal for cancer patients to be emotional! I am now afraid my son is angry with me and won't talk to me again. 

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    Hi, Bunnykins, so sorry for what you are going through.  I have 3 children and my eldest daughter is the same as your son.  I always thought ee were so close but she has been to see me twice this year (she lives a few hundred yards away).  I think sometimes they. Feel if they don't see it then it isnt happening.

    Try to get things on an even keel again with your son, I am sure you are both now hurting very much, not something you need right now. I don't know about others on here, but my emotions are all over the place, all the time.  Come and have a rant here, whenever you want. 

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    Yes your right, maybe it's not easy for him to deal with. I know he gets very stressed about his own life and possibly seeing me was a step too far. It is hurting me but I am going go give him some space go deal with it in his own time. Going to pamper myself next week by having my nails and eyebrows dyed. My hair is finally coming through and looking quite funky white! Thankyou for replying all the best on your journey x

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    Hi, Bunnykins, good idea to spoil yourself a bit!  :-)  we have a Helen Rollason Cancer Charity near where I live and every week I have reflexology or massage plus counselling (very helpful).  They also have a support group once a month, where it is nice to have a chat with people who have usually got the same problems.  We also have a few other support groups and I make the most of going to them.  Family and friends can be lovely but you have to walk in our shoes to really undersrand.

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    Hi,I have same diagnosis as you surgery done  removed a 22mm , now chemo which I am terrified off I am sure your son won't be angry with you ,get in touch with him sure he be fine I bet he is finding it difficult to your his mummy he's your little boy

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    Hi there 

    I can't say chemo is easy, I did five out of six as I wasn't very well on fifth. But rest when you can and get the support of friends and family. You will have a bit of a mountain to climb but you will come through the other side. All the best and much love on your journey xx

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