Hi I have a close relative who has been diagnosed with secondary liver cancer. I need as much advice to pass on to my family member and other family members.
Hi Bubbleworld123 = I am sorry to hear your relative has a secondary cancer of the liver. I don't know how far the cancer has got = but i do understnad your concerns and your kindness in thinking about the others. My mum in law had this in her mid eighties. She din't know anything about and felt well until near the end. Thats how she didn't have any treatment - no one knew. Many cancers of the abdomen area send secondaries to the liver = and I guess the treatment will depend on where the primary is and how it is.
Either way - you must advise your family members that this is a serious illness despite how well the person feels or looks. It is important that they keep their energy up and keep exercising. It is known that exercise reduces the risk of cancers for the person and also destressing for the others. So its good food and good exercise that will help - even if its a walk in a park somewhere if they can do it.
The family really have to know as you can't hide this and they need time to come to terms with it as cancer gives you a large mental stress. It can be a blessed time and may be good as it is a time to catch up on family members and to make peace with all.
The hospital and doctors will have a care plan to improve things and its best to make notes as its a technical subject and hard to understand - especially if its your dear one they are talking about..
To summarise - keep up your spirits and be aware that things don't always go the way we want. There are many unknowns in cancers and it is an unexact science. The doctors may not even understand it properly - how ever they are good and you may trust them. Tell everyone how it is after you have got permission from the person with the cancer. The others need to find their way ( and all may like to have tests for cancer if they are close relatives) = it is a normal thing that happens to people - never welcome = but very common and this is part of how it is. Be happy that you know how things truely are for your relative = there will be many shocks and terrors along the way - but know that its a road that has its intimate and lighter times as well.
