HI MY HALF SISTER HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH BOWEL CANCER AND HAS BEEN TOLD SHE HAS 6MONTHS TO A YEAR TO LIVE I AM SOO WORRIED ABOUT HER .ITS TERMINAL CANCER AND THE DOCTORS CANNOT DO ANYTHING ELSE FOR HER WHAT CAN I DO?
Welcome to this forum though sorry to read the reason you find yourself here. It is certainly an emotional rollercoaster when a family member gets a terminal diagnosis (it was my husband). It takes a while for it all to sink in and a lot depends on how your half sister is dealing with it and how she wants to manage the time she may have (there is no way to be exactly sure how long anyone has and the quality of life differs from person to person). The best advice I can give from my own personal experience is to go with your heart and if she is happy to talk with you and you are nearby then do not be afraid to ask her what you can or can't do for her. My husband wanted everything to be as normal as possible for as long as possible and was more interested in what others were up to rather than talking about his illness.
Come to the forum any time you need to talk/offload as there are some lovely friendly people here (I am not sure what I would have done without my virtual buddie who still 'hold me up' of those down days we all experience.). regards and virtual hug . Jules
Hi I have stage 3 bowel cancer. Your sister will be shocked and frightened and hating hurting everyone she loves with this awful news. For me he best bit ( yes it sounds ridiculous that there are best bits I know) is like never before you know how much you are loved and how much you love. Be the sister you have always been, love her, hold her, tell her how much you care , laugh with her, spoil her, do all hose things you always did for they will be extra special times now My thoughts are with you and your sister x
Hi my name is susie cue I was diagnosed with bowel Cancer 3 yrs ago i was very lucky it was found very early and i had part of my bowel taken away on the right hand side I had no Chemo or Bag and they
have told me that it is very unlikely that it will come back but you never know this bowel cancer is silent a lot of the time you do not know you have it untill it is too late this is why i say that we all should have tests for this not just when you get too sixty i feel hole heartedly for the ones that can not be helped all i will tell you is go and live your life as well as you can go and do all the things that you wanted to do
I've told everone where I'm at, especially at work, Iupdate them when i've had treatment or results. I find it helps me to verbalise my situation and people dont ask at inappropriate times
Am sure it can help all invovled if you can share your feelings. Sadly my hubby was not one who wanted to talk to anyone about it (including me) which is why I found the forum so supportive. So pleased that your condition is manageable and long may that continue. Regards Jules
What a shock for you all!! At a diagnosis like this it is typically panic what everyone feels.
We will be praying for you all today and place a candle in our window for everyone in your family. Be strong for her - even though your heart is breaking. Terminal doesn't mean the end - as people live in our hearts and you both may find a closer relationship at this time.
I would ask the doctor for a check yourself = for peace of mind.
