Really sorry you find yourself having to join this forum but hope that being able to talk freely here will help during this difficult time for you, your Dad and family. I became a member over two years ago (hubby had terminal cancer of lung linings linked to Asbestos) and can honestly say the support/advice/caring attitude of other 'readers/posters' has helped carry me through this very hard journey.
Every diagnosis is personal to those suffering and their family but if you are able to go along to appointments with your Dad can I suggest you write your/his questions down as it will help remind you at the time. A word of caution if you are checking the internet for information stick to well known sites like this one or MacMillan to avoid misleading information.
Come and chat anytime and hope the medical team treating your Dad can give you some insight into the way forward for him. Regards Jules54
Thank you for taking your time answering me.
We go next week to see the cancer team,to try and find out more. I have been reading other cancer sites,they have been really frightening me. We know he has not got very long,but we just really want to make him as comfortable as possible. We really would appreciate any advice. I will write everything down on Tuesday. Thank you.
It is best not to surf too much as a lot of what you read may well not be relevant to your Dad's situation. The little advice I have is to take it day by day and wait for the specialist to tell you how best they can help to keep your Dad as comfortable and painfree as possible. The very best way to help your Dad is doing what you already are - being there and listen to what he wants (I learnt early on that it can be the little things that really help and not to 'second guess' what might be. Our experience was a three year journey from diagnosis and during that time my hubby had regular check ups with a palliative care team who offered support to both him and me and I am sure your Dad's team will give you the information you need provided your Dad is happy to have his medical situation discussed with you. I am sure your emotions are all over the place at the moment but you will not be facing this on your own (not sure how old you are) and do let the forum know how things go on Tuesday. Sometimes it just helps to write feelings down. Take care Jules
