Hi

Just got home from the hospital, husband has been told he has prostate cancer.  The Consultant was a nice guy, doing his best, but we had an hour and a half wait and my husband was quite distressed by the time we got in.  It doesn't help that he has PTSD after serving in the army.

This is a big gabble, sorry for that, just kind of reeling and don't know what to do to help him.

The technical stuff:  He had a PSA of 10, then a biopsy, which has revealed that 6 of the 12 samples they took had cancer cells, all at level three, except for one area, which was four.

The Consultant was not very effective in explaining what was going on, he explained every sort of treatment in a big wall of sound and then said, oh but you won't have that!  It seemed a bit overwhelming and unnecessary on the news breaking visit.

He has to have an MRI and will most likely have the prostate removed.  He is a very manly man, type A, ex WO1, so is worried about his masculinity, etc.,  I don't know what to say.  All I have said and keep saying is that he is a strong man and it was caught early and that we must take each day as it comes but that I would be there for him no matter what.  I don't know what else to do.

I guess a lot of you have been in this position and know how we are feeling at this moment.

I dont really have anyone IRL to talk to, we have decided to keep it from the kids until at least he has had the scan and things are a bit clearer.  Thanks for listening.